So-In-Love Sunday's Video Pick

Luther Vandross featuring Beyonce, The Closer I Get to You

Sex in the Closet?

*Disclaimer* The following is simply for the purpose of engaging in open dialogue about a random topic that popped in my head. My thoughts, beliefs, and opinions are not betrayed at all in the following blog.

Time for some SERIOUS real talk about SEX...

I was chatting with one of my really good friends today and I posed the following question and I would like to pose the same question to my female readers.
Would you date a man that you knew openly OR (at one point) secretly participated in homosexual activity?

My friend immediately answered "hell no!!! It's already difficult dealing with them stepping out on us with other women, I shouldn't have to worry about him when he's supposedly going to play ball with his boys." (no pun intended)

I began to analyze the state of the black woman and the lack of committed relationships, the down low brother epidemic, and then thought even further about other things that men do that we forgive (or conveniently forget.)

I'm wondering the consensus on this topic. We say we aren't willing to settle. But many of us do. Many of us pay the bulk of the bills, many of us date a man that we know we are sharing with another woman (or women), many of us date a man who we'd really want to be committed to...but because he doesn't want to jump the broom...we continue on with the relationship anyway.

So if a man tells you that he has participated in boy-on-boy activity, are you willing to respect his honesty and date him? Or is your answer "hell no" also? If this man swears that he will be committed to you and you only--forsaking all relationships with other women and MEN, are you willing to be with him? Or is the stigma that comes along with those types of relationships too much for you to handle and you'd rather be alone than to be with him?

Are we being closed-minded in saying we will never date a man that was attracted to other men? Are we continuing to perpetuate the down-low situation by not allowing men to be open and honest with us about their sexual orientation? Are we being hypocrites by saying, we can forgive a man that has committed a crime but not a man that dabbled in more than heterosexual activities?

OR, would you rather he never tell you that he ever participated in any kind of homosexual activities and just leave his past in his past?

Too-Through-Thursdays Video Pick

Brandy, Almost Doesn't Count

Dear Cupid

Written by Laticia King

Dear Cupid,

Not to toot my own horn or anything…but I'm a bad a** chick.

Intelligent, classy, funny, and not to mention in all the right places…a lil thick. ☺

I can hold it down in the kitchen, board, and bedroom.

A woman that takes everything in consideration, collects her thoughts and never speaks

too soon.

A strong woman that smiles when she wants to cry, laugh when she wants to scream,

So why is it that nothing but weak men try to get on my team?

And by weak, I mean

sooooo many things,

that dude that's scared to commit

And when times get rough, that lil boy that's quick to call it quits.

The guy that goes through life wishing on a star

Do you think sitting on the couch playing NBA Live is gonna get you that new car?

That dude that swears up and down "she's just my myspace friend."

Oh Word, is that why you stop approving comments and took me out your top 10? (lmao)

Come on boo, that girl isn't staring at me for nothing

That 3:00 am text she sending you means something

I say all this to say…Dear Cupid, with all the common sense and pride that I exude

Why do you keep sending me these wack a** dudes?

Ones that think just cause I might not say anything that I can't see through all his bull

I just keep it in my file, named "this stupid a** nigga -info only to be used when I'm

completely ready to act a d*mn fool."

Yeah, that's right, I will get buck on you

When you love and respect a woman, there's things you just don't do.

But I digress a little bit, let me get back to this Dear Cupid Letter.

Cupid, when it comes to me, the selection process must get better.

I appreciate that guy you sent me, the one that wasn't a male whore,

the guy that had manners and always opened my door,

that cute 6'3 dude who knew how to have fun,

oh, and not to forget the guy that…well..let's just say at the end of the night…I was done.

But seriously Cupid…the next arrow you shoot with my name on it could he please

include all that in one?

And, P.S, one more thing….could he possibly also have an exposeable income?

Regards,

-A Woman That Knows Her Worth