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Sex in the Closet?

*Disclaimer* The following is simply for the purpose of engaging in open dialogue about a random topic that popped in my head. My thoughts, beliefs, and opinions are not betrayed at all in the following blog.

Time for some SERIOUS real talk about SEX...

I was chatting with one of my really good friends today and I posed the following question and I would like to pose the same question to my female readers.
Would you date a man that you knew openly OR (at one point) secretly participated in homosexual activity?

My friend immediately answered "hell no!!! It's already difficult dealing with them stepping out on us with other women, I shouldn't have to worry about him when he's supposedly going to play ball with his boys." (no pun intended)

I began to analyze the state of the black woman and the lack of committed relationships, the down low brother epidemic, and then thought even further about other things that men do that we forgive (or conveniently forget.)

I'm wondering the consensus on this topic. We say we aren't willing to settle. But many of us do. Many of us pay the bulk of the bills, many of us date a man that we know we are sharing with another woman (or women), many of us date a man who we'd really want to be committed to...but because he doesn't want to jump the broom...we continue on with the relationship anyway.

So if a man tells you that he has participated in boy-on-boy activity, are you willing to respect his honesty and date him? Or is your answer "hell no" also? If this man swears that he will be committed to you and you only--forsaking all relationships with other women and MEN, are you willing to be with him? Or is the stigma that comes along with those types of relationships too much for you to handle and you'd rather be alone than to be with him?

Are we being closed-minded in saying we will never date a man that was attracted to other men? Are we continuing to perpetuate the down-low situation by not allowing men to be open and honest with us about their sexual orientation? Are we being hypocrites by saying, we can forgive a man that has committed a crime but not a man that dabbled in more than heterosexual activities?

OR, would you rather he never tell you that he ever participated in any kind of homosexual activities and just leave his past in his past?

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